I started dreaming of a shed before the pandemic started. I spent about an hour a day clearing an area, cutting trees down and sticking them ground, building the frame, and I plan to spend all Father’s Day getting the slate roof up.
I had a lot to learn every step of the way. I used my body in ways that it was not used to and this dad is desperate for some bodywork.
As with many things in life, I couldn’t have done it without my dad. Dads are there to help when you need it most. When things look bleak and insurmountable, dads can be the catalyst to get you over the hump.
Pictured below is the barn-raising day with my father-in-law and my brother who took time away from his family to help.
I chose this photo and story because I think it underlines some of the dad experience. The shed is both a man hut for me and a necessity to care for and manage the suburban family life I’ve chosen. While much of it is something I did solo, the really hard an important parts I needed help with.
Parents come last in any family equation. Dad strength is putting yourself at the absolute bottom of the heap and making sure that everybody else has what they need first.
Dad strength is having the power and authority to be tough and scary, but also being gentle and supportive at just the right moments – and knowing when to be which.
Dad strength is not putting up with any bs, because dad has seen lots of bs before and is not going to take it from the kids.
Dad strength is loving grandkids and spoiling them rotten so that the parents have to put up with a little of what they had to put up with.
So, this Father’s Day, give your dad the gift of a massage or bodywork session. I promise you, Dad will love it, he Deserves it.